Relationship Tips: Compatibility Part 2

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            Average/Acceptable Compatibility: Amos 3:3 “do two walk together unless they have agreed to               do so?”  To agree to do so would mean “to accept to; to consent to; to assent to; to undertake to; to             have the same opinion about something; to concur …………” It is definite that there must be an                   agreement between two if they intend to walk successfully together, especially down the road of                   relationship through to marriage.

Let’s take a peep into what an agreement is. It is a negotiated binding arrangement (set of rules and conditions with binding obligations and liabilities) between two parties as to a course of action; the course of action in this case is in achieving a successful relationship. An agreement can be verbal, legal (in print) or personal as the case maybe. Looking at the three forms of agreement stated

Legal would be a “contract marriage” which is not the main focus of the write-up.

A verbal agreement would require acceptable inputs (verbal terms and condition) from both parties before it can be enforced or become a binding obligation in a relationship (terms and conditions like “allow me my space; must have my own room; habits; mutual respect; accountability; responsibility; career pursuit; family accounts; appearance; make-up; sex timetable; number of children; accessibility to in-laws and friends; association; church or religion; where to live; life style; nanny; recreational activities; type of meals; turns to take up domestic obligations; must avoid terms or condition  … or I walk”). These terms must be fair, satisfactory and agreed on by both parties before committing to the relationship. Let me share an experience to substantiate this. “I visited a female friend many years ago with the intent to get a relationship started. After pouring out my vibes, she requested that I make a verbal sacrificial commitment as the only condition for acceptance. Wow!!! Now that was way beyond my acceptable limits. The request was not directly proportional to the degree of love to accept; so, I left sad but again glad that I never did. The condition was just too weighty for the intended relationship and timing.

This agreement can also be termed “Acceptable Compatibility”, where defensible terms and conditions define “compatibility” in relationships. The degree and duration of acceptability depends on both parties and varies from party to party. Durability depends also on personal, future or external factors that may impact on the agreed terms and condition (example: cases of people growing apart as they age in the relationship or changes associated with individual temperaments).    

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