Relationship Tips: Compatibility

"A watch word in relationships". It is anticipated that everyone must answer the compatibility question before proceeding to give a nod to a relationship. It is a must answer to every successful relationship. Questions like "can you work together, live together, and so on without problems or conflicts" are drummed loudly into the ears of prospective lovers. Usually, you get answers like "Yes we can"; I believe so"; we flow together; we work together well; i think so etc.

Let’s go a step deeper. Can any two be perfectly compatible in a relationship? Is there any term like acceptable compatibility? How do we define/determine what is acceptable in compatibility? 

What is compatibility in relationship/marriage? It’s simply defined as a state in which two persons are able to exist together without problems or conflict. Two people existing together without problems or conflicts seem too perfect a togetherness/co-existence in our world. It’s not even seen amongst identical twins how much more persons from very different backgrounds. It’s even more complex for us as Africans and some other regions because of cultural differences/influence in our behaviours. The term “Acceptable Compatibility” then becomes a determining factor to a successful relationship. It’s therefore the responsibility of the persons involved to decide the degree of acceptability.

The degree of compatible acceptability varies per relationship. Let’s take a peep into some types of compatibility 

There are three types of compatibility namely:

1. Full Compatibility: two can work together; exist together in combination without problems or conflicts. You are perfect together in purpose; emotionally you are perfect; together in strengths and weakness; together physically; together in values, behavioural traits; social combination; spiritual togetherness; togetherness in old age, in downtimes etc. This is termed “A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP”. A relationship void of conflicts though there would be minor problems but would not degenerate into major conflicts. In such relationships, both persons do not seem to recognize weaknesses or major conflict hotspots. They co-exist and do not recognize the weaknesses/faults/conflict trigger points of their partners. Problems are solved as is or handled on a case-by-case bases and not the kind of problem requiring a detailed root cause analysis with links to other past faults. Hmmm!!!!!! It’s a peaceful co-existence with an understanding that the “two can tango” (good laugh). This is the ultimate desire for every right thinking male or female adult but we know it is not easy to come by except with God’s help. This brings us to the second type of compatibility.

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